Ok. Seriously folks. Is anyone else super tired of the “find your passion” and “follow your dream” crapola?! Does anyone else feel like a big fraud in life because you don’t have a “passion” (except for maybe tacos… people seem pretty pumped about tacos nowadays)? Is your job good enough, it pays the bills, it’s fine? Are you perfectly content with your life – going to work, spending time with loved ones, binging on a TV series, and maybe reading a good article or book from time to time? You don’t have a fire in your belly and you are ok with that – it sounds like indigestion and very uncomfortable, thank you very much. You’re GOOD!
FIND YOUR PASSION! but #SOBLESSED. Practice GRATITUDE, but BE BETTER. Be HAPPY but want MORE happiness while being HUMBLE. Be satisfied, but DREAM BIG!
How thrilled was I when I stumbled upon this TedTalk – Stop searching for your passion. Someone else feels like me! So yeah – watch Terri and then we’ll chat more.
Terri at one point in her talk says “Passion is elitist”; I love her for that – #firstworldproblems. Many are living in survival mode, it is the best they can do. They are working, keeping a roof over their heads, food on their tables and are loving their families and themselves as best they can (check out Maslow’s hierarchy of needs below). Pursuing passion and dreams is a privilege and not a necessity for a perfectly fine life. So stop with the pressure y’all, to dream BIG! Maybe we can dream small and be perfectly fulfilled.
Terri uses the example of a window cleaner, assuming he may not have a passion for clean windows. But what if he feels a deep feeling of accomplishment when he steps back and admires his work? It may not be a fire in his belly, but a nice warm glow sounds lovely to me. And prestige? He may have awesome relationships and a great reputation with shop owners in the neighbourhood. Mr Glass Cleaner may not be rich and famous, but he may be fulfilled.
If you have been reading my blog since the beginning, you may know I’ve been on a search for “meaningful work”. While staying home, raising my daughter, I also wanted to dabble in a “passion”. The question was when is enough enough? I’m raising my daughter, reading/learning/blogging, trying to paint regularly, and volunteering with the Roots of Empathy program. I’m busy!!!
JW and I sat down and did a business plan exploring my “dream?” of having my own private practice offering wellness coaching and workshops. Guess what? It’s a LOT of work for VERY little $$$$. I would be distracted from my daughter, my husband and my creative outlets. I would have to turn down family trips to pursue my “passion” for helping others. It was a HUGE wakeup call.
For the last ten years, my DREAM was to find love, a life partner, and have a BABY! My dream wasn’t to have a private practice. What was I thinking??? Terri was right. I was scared people may not think I’m interesting. Even more so, I was terrified that people would think I lacked ambition.
THIS is enough (for now)
That’s just bullcrap. I don’t need to light myself on fire with passion to prove anything to anyone, that’s downright dangerous. As of today, I’ve FOUND MY PASSION. It’s warm and cozy. I’m gonna sit back, put my feet up, and ENJOY IT!
Are you already living YOUR dream?
What makes YOU warm and fuzzy with “passion”?
Until next time,
Read, Write, Grow.